Healthy Relationships Mix Tape
The statistics about teen dating violence are super depressing. One in three teens in the U.S. are experiencing dating abuse – this includes physical, sexual, verbal, and emotional abuse.* But, YOU can make a difference and help bring that number down!
How, you ask? By helping the students in your life to learn what a healthy dating relationship should look like.
When a bank clerk or a federal agent realizes they are holding a counterfeit bill, it isn’t because they know all about counterfeit bills. Instead, they know all about real money – what it looks like, how it feels, even how it smells. While we aren’t encouraging you to ask your students what a healthy dating relationship smells like, we do think that the more you can help your students envision what a healthy dating relationship looks like, the more likely they’ll be able to spot a counterfeit.
This year, we thought it would be fun to teach through music! The following songs are ones we recommend to teach about healthy dating relationships. If you want to listen to the entire Healthy Relationships Mix Tape and you have a Spotify account, click here https://open.spotify.com/user/dsvsmt/playlist/1cqnvZ4qZ3i477aAKa6rIf.
For each song below, we suggest playing the video in your class, and asking some of the following questions:
- What are the characteristics of a healthy relationship in this song?
- How does this song demonstrate the healthy relationship statements: I get to be myself, I treat others well, I can say no, and I have fun?
- Does this song apply to other healthy relationships, too, besides dating? (Parents, siblings, friends, etc?) Can you tell me more about your answer?
- Valentine’s Day is coming up – what lyrics from this song might make a good valentine? Can you tell me more about your answer?
- Is this song like other songs you hear about dating relationships? What is different about this song? What are the other songs like?
Lianne La Havas, “What You Don’t Do”
Healthy relationships are built on trust. This song does an excellent job of illustrating when you know your partner and treat them well–you trust they love you without all the constant questions or tests. As Lianne says, love is equally about what you don’t do as what you do.
Sara Bareilles, “Brave”
In this song, Sara reminds us all that being your true self sometimes takes a little bravery but the reward is great! In healthy relationships, you find someone who encourages you in that process and always wants you to be your best self!
The Supremes, “You Can’t Hurry Love”
“You Can’t Hurry Love” by the Supremes offers some really thoughtful advice about relationships. “It’s a game of give and take,” points out that good relationships involve work and compromise. Hurrying love means you have to force or control a situation or another person. The song’s insistence that “you can’t hurry love” reminds us that the right things will happen at the right time. The melody and groove are also among the best in popular music!
*For full citation of statistics, visit http://www.loveisrespect.org/resources/dating-violence-statistics/